CHANGE

tujhe dekha toh yeh jana sanam.....pyaar hota hai deewana sanam.....ab yahan se kahan jaayein hum...tere bahoon mein mar jaaye hum...........!

Beautiful song indeed.....!

Being emotionless or not showing your emotions are two different things but the consequences are same dull , slow and boring life. But the fact is people are very happy in not showing there true emotions they thing its solving a purpose and the purpose is to become more mature, more closer to society rules, more serious and less interesting. On the other hand , the person who is in love is always singing songs, life becomes a dream destination, everything seems so good and you want to make everyone happy.

In the past three years my life has been a roller coaster emotional ride. From touching the highest levels of love to having a realization that its time to be in a let go mode, where you leave everything on destiny. But, the good thing is that the roller coaster ride has not made me emotionless and I don't hide my emotions rather I still love the above mentioned song, I still feel the love that I have, the change is that previously she was the center and now whole universe is the center.

In my first post I stated

If love is the answer can you rephrase the question??

At present I say :

love will always give you the answer no need to rephrase the question.....!

So, the meaning has CHANGED , but the feeling is still there. I can say from experience that real love always comes with pain but it can give you that even money can't give you. You can visit great places of world, make millions of dollars or simply go for shopping but nothing is more filling than love, nothing is more satisfactory than love.

People become:
serious
Boring
Non alive
Emotionless
Disciplined

just to avoid the pain, the insecurity love offers us.


But they forget "pyaar kal bhi deewana tha aur aaj bhi deewana hai........." they love the safety , the security that a heart without love provides to them. They feel comfortable, they feel they are doing very intelligent thing by not loving.

But , I can proudly say that I have not chosen the so called secure boring life. Yes, my meaning has changed and that happens , that's the way it has to happen but I don't start hating love, don't start avoiding love. If love changes into hate its not real love.Real love becomes more and more unconditional, Real love can change into friendship, lovers can ultimately become great friends but never be afraid of love.

SO BE THE CHANGE IN LOVE BUT DON'T CHANGE THE FEELING CALLED LOVE.....!

2010....

It has been months since I have not posted , there has not been any specific reason just that never wished to post...y...again no reason.
Today I got a message reminding me that it is the last month of the year....and as every1 would do , I also start recollecting and analyzing how 2010 has been for me........
and the answer was........
A FAIRY TAIL YEAR.
I still remember the first day of 2010.......it was focused on sum1 special.......and it has been from that time till now.
Sumtimes you do things beyond your expectations........extraordinary.....filmy......unusual.....I did everything this year.........Now I can proudly say that......I enjoyed whatever I did.
What Comes next......
Well good things in life doesn't come easy...it comes with a hidden cost.....but no worries coz I have asked for huge discounts and I hope God will grant it....I don't want to end the good things happening in my life but how good or bad ….change is inevitable....life moves nd so do we.....exploring every bit of us in every new situation ...sound very interesting and yes it is.
2011 The year of dilemmas and hopes........
If 2010 was a fairy tail year for me..(still few days are left lol)... 2011 will be the year of new hopes coupled with dilemmas ...but I am ready to face new challenges. No matter how far I go and how things will be in 2011 , but for now I take this platform to salute this year......as I can clearly mark it as one of the best year of my life with a hope that 2011 will be the bestest...hihihi.....as we all will die in 2012.....lol again.
2010 also introduced me to the world of blogs...although I am not regular but...want to take this opportunity to thank my fellow bloggers
Rohini: For introducing me to the world of blogs.
Jack: For writing such knowledgeable blogs about life experiences
Anulal: For his beautiful poetry
Sherri: For her sweet comments.
Thanks..2010.

The book of life…..!! (Part 1)

Life is a journey or destination…..for my inner self this point is the most critical in taking and doing things in life….why do we perform certain karma’s , why we get into complex situations, why what seems simple is not easy when you face it practically. These questions troubled me a lot until I read and understood some of the major points of BHAGVAD GITA.

Reading and understanding BHAGVED GITA is like finding a companion for the journey of life. The message of the GITA is meant to be a preparation for life. It helps us being productive in life while keeping the mind at rest.

Here are some practical tips to follow:

Choosing one’s Swadharma: One must choose in life the field of activity as per ones nature. To find success and satisfaction it is important to be in the field of one’s interest.

Performing obligatory duties: A person sensible to its obligations is progressive and prosperous.
Development of the intellect: The intellect acts on reason and judgment. Acting on one’s likes may give us immediate sense of pleasure but it ultimately leads to ruin.

Acting in the spirit of Co-operative endeavor: Actions dedicated to higher ideal generate greater energy, while selfish actions leads to misery.

Self control: (not self denial): it is channelising our energies towards purposeful end. Without disciplining the senses no higher goals can be achieved in life.

Endurance: While going through unhappy experiences one must know that it will pass. One must strive to gain permanent happiness.

Focus on action, not the fruit: The fruit is nothing but the proper culmination of one’s actions. Focus on the job alone


.”Man is made by his belief. As he believes, so he is.”

P.S: Write up inspired by TOI article mindtrack / Teachings: Swami parthasarathy.

INVEST IN SMILE......

just think for a while....


when you get up after hours of sleep.....
when you are in your dreams so deep.....
When you leave office after working so hard....
When you reach your work place driving so fast....
When time runs faster than you expect.....
When you do everything but not rest....


you forget to do thing that will give you instant return
take sometime for it coz now its ur turn.....
just think for a while.....you will get all benefits
INVEST IN SMILE.....invest in smile....
This is the only thing that can take you extra mile......
just think 4 a while..invest in smile!!!!


Dedicated to all those people who are so willing to win the rat race but forgets to enjoy life as a whole.
No matter what....happiness is the road to real success......BE HAPPY!

TAG : Guilty or innocent

Rohini Ji tagged me on this……Quite an interesting tag …

Rules Go Like These -------
RULE 1- You can only say Guilty or Innocent.
RULE 2- You are not allowed to explain anything unless someone messages you and asks!
RULE 3- Copy and paste this into your notes, delete my answers, type in your answers and tag to your friends to answer this.

(Fuck off rules)

Asked someone to marry you? Innocent….

Marriage is the last thing I will do…..

Ever kissed someone of the same sex? Guilty

My nephew……..I m straight…

Danced on a table in a bar? Innocent

Ever told a lie? Guilty

This question should be removed…

Had feelings for someone whom you can’t have back? Guilty

Always…..lol

Kissed a picture? Guilty

No comments on this….

Slept in until 5 PM? Innocent



Fallen asleep at work/school? Guilty


Held a snake? Innocent

I can’t


Been suspended from school? Innocent

Bal bal bacha hoon bahut bar…..

Worked at a fast food restaurant? Innocent


Stolen from a store? Guilty

A biscuit pack when I was in class 4th

Been fired from a job? Guilty

Employer: Cantabil
Post: Advertising Manager

Done something you regret? Innocent

I have a reason for everything…

Laughed until something you were drinking came out your nose? Guilty

Caught a snowflake on your tongue? Innocent

Kissed in the rain? Innocent

Chance hi nh mila hai

Sat on a roof top? Guilty

Kissed someone you shouldn't? Innocent

Sang in the shower? Guilty

Been pushed into a pool with all your clothes on? Guilty

Shaved your head? Guilty

Had a boxing membership? Innocent

Made a girlfriend cry? InnocentBeen in a band? Innocent

Shot a gun? Guilty

My father has a desi revolver…

Donated Blood? Innocent

Yesterday I had a chance…I missed it!

Eaten alligator meat? Innocent

Eaten cheesecake? Guilty

Still love someone you shouldn’t? Innocent and Guilty

Intzaar kab tak hum karenge bhala…..

Have/had a tattoo? Innocent

Liked someone, but will never tell who?

I am confused…don’t know what to answer?

Been too honest? Guilty

Sachi mein bahut sach bole hain…


Ruined a surprise? Innocent

Ate in a restaurant and got really bloated that you couldn’t walk afterward? Guilty

Erased someone in your friends list? Guilty

Dressed in a woman’s clothes (if you’re a guy) or man’s clothes (if you’re a girl)? Guilty

Joined a pageant? Innocent

Been told that you’re handsome or beautiful by someone who totally meant what they said?
Guilty

Had communication with your ex? Guilty

Got totally drunk on the night before exam? Innocent

Got totally angry that you cried so hard? Guilty

Many times……

Hmm….thnx Rohini Ji for making live the past….
and sorry for breaking the rules of the game. Actually I am a rule breaker…thnx agn!
I pass on this tag to – Seeta, Geeta, Meetu, neetu, Puja and neha..............:-)
Wherever u r plz do it….!

Is it THE LAST TIME I SAW YOU??

There is a saying that love and death are the two uninvited guest in life, they can come when you least expect them. This Sunday morning I was happy and upbeat as usual as I had plans to catch a movie with my friend in theater. My upbeat mood just got a jerk when I got to know that our laundry man popularly known as ''dhobhi uncle'' is no more.

We knew him from last 10 years as he came everyday in our house to take and return the clothes after pressing them. We were so used to see him since the time I was in school, that now also I am not able to digest the news properly. We had fights with him as we didn't liked his work initially. We even told him to discontinue with work but he requested a lot to my father and ultimately he was again appointed but his pressing skills didn't improve much. The good thing in him was that he was a hard worker and his charges were not too expensive as compared to others. He was around 58 years old very thin and short but he always had a satisfied and happy look on his face. Other thing that I remember about him that he used to visit Vaishno devi Mandir (Jammu, Katra) every six months as he used to give us par-shad and show us the train ticket with a joy every time he had to visit that place.




The last day of his life:
He was fit and fine and was busy in doing his daily laundry work , suddenly he had a giddiness and in a moment he fell on floor. He was taken to nearby hospital but was declared brought dead. It was later revealed by hospital authorities that he had a brain hemorrhage a disease which doesn't come with any warning.

Nothing has changed in my life, I went to see the movie and enjoyed it too. But a strange thought came in mind that I will never see this person again in life..he has gone and gone forever....At that point of a time I felt that is it a right way to get death.....??
May be he could have visited his favorite place ''Vaishno devi'' before dying.
May be he could have spent his last time with family.
I am not aware about his wishes that he had as a person but still can't death tell us its arriving time so that we can plan accordingly as we plan everything in our life from marriage to our first job,etc, etc.

So much ironical it is...God let us plan everything but never tell us our end day as if he wants to keep that ultimate control with him..nevermind I am not here to challenge God rules. My mother always say to me that ''we (my parents) will die after some years then you will be alone'' may be she wants to make me aware about the facts of life...and indirectly telling me to settle down...don't know the reasons but fact remains a fact that death can come anytime.The Bible tells us God is absolutely sovereign over death and life. We have just as much control over our death as we had over our birth--none! Man does not decide who will live and who will die--God does. Man cannot live one second beyond the time God has determined, nor can he live one second less.

Relating the incident with the title of my my blog, at present I feel that life is only a journey and not a destination. So, enjoy it to the fullest and meet every person with love as you might be seeing him/her the last time in your respective life.....!

Lastly I want to share a song lines from a old hindi movie:
''Ek din bikh jaayga maatee ke maul..jag mein reh jaynge pyaare tere bol''

So...true!

SEVEN RANDOM THINGS:

Its really difficult to write whats going in mind as I have got a very complex mind but

I will try to speak the truth:

1. A dream that can come true: Life’s a journey but in few days from now I may witness a journey of my life. I am excited….very excited..very very excited….keeping my fingers crossed…lots of ifs and buts are still associated with the journey..but if the journey doesn’t come true I will not stop dreaming about it….but I am really positive and excited too….!
2. Smile an everlasting smile: Well that’s always the first thing in mind but due to the dream journey it became second…no points for guessing whose smile I am talking about..yes that’s my sum1 special….her smile is so engaging that I can see it 24 x 7 and still wonder from where she has got that smile…I hope she keeps on smiling and I keep on wondering.
3. Yes she is beautiful: ….an angel to me..a beautiful girl…can do nythn but can’t stop thinking about her.
4. I lost my mind: My life is brilliant , my love is pure, I lost my mind..y..i m not sure…I don’t know what to do….!!1
5. The Truth knocks the door: Yes my mind says its time to face the truth…..I will never be with her…but she remains in my heart…&.I am her.
6. What it takes to make her happy: Whenever I saw her..I saw her smiling…well unknowingly she taught me to be happy always….but how can I give her extra happiness…I can just pray and request….Oh God plz make her happy alwaysssssssss!!! She’s wonderful.
7. Sum1 plz pinch me: Out of the dream world…(well for me dat was real world nd d only world) my mind thinks about how to make money and get financial independence, I think about food all the time, my third love table tennis, beautiful and sexy girls are always in my mind, how to upgrade myself spiritually…and finally how to live life alone….if sum1’s not there with me….uhhhhhhhhhh…lot of things r in my mind….I mentioned the complex nature of my mind..nyways..done my duty….sleeping now…all d ppl in this world plz take care!!!

@rohini Ji: thanks for tagging….I don’t have enough followers so can’t tag ny1 rgt now.